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Shopping smartly after weight loss surgery

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Good morning beautiful people!  I decided to post about something I love to do… Shop!! I will admit I am addicted!!  But don’t get me wrong my bills always come first!  Shoot I don’t make no money…I am a struggling working parent trying to make a dollar out of  fifteen cent.  However since I have lost over 150 pounds and I am able to shop and find so many pretty pieces because as we all know… They cater more to the smaller sizes.   I hated shopping when I was bigger because it was so hard to find things I like that would hide my budges and that was comfortable to wear…..  plus it was expensive.

But now…..Man let me start off by saying  I love several stores but my favorite is Ashley Stewart stores.  I have posted several times about this place because it seems like the store was made for me.  Oh yea, AND they do cater to the plus size.  Their clothing go all the way up to a size 32.  I get some of the best deals off of their online site.  You got to join the email and text services because they will send you information on the sales.   I got both of these dresses for only $15.00 each off of their clearance link when it was 50% off.

 

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Now let me say before hand I am a cheap shopper.  I got bills to pay so I can’t afford to pay alot of money for clothing.  That’s why my second favorite store is any Goodwill store that’s is color coordinated.  This outfit only cost me $11.50 from my locate Goodwill here in my town.  I paired it with a pair of Black knee high boots from Lane Bryant and added my jewelry.  Now tell me you can’t beat that.

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But here is my major save that I got to share.  My third favorite store is Lane Bryant store and online site.  Now I know they are little expensive but man when they have those sales with 50% you can get some awesome deals.   Plus I love how they cater to the plus size and all of their shoes are made for wide feet and calves.  I just put these 4 pairs of boots on my charge last night…. because  well I needed some winter boots!! 😜😜 Man they was having an awesome sale going on…. I got those all those bad boys for under $140.00 total.  Check them out… Because their boots usually run around $80.00 a pair and I got 4 pair for $140.00!!

Here is the thing…. We women struggle with so many internal things.  But one thing that always boosts my spirits is when I know I look good and wear my outfit like a queen. We have to find something that make us feel good about ourselves. We have to motivate and believe in ourselves and walk in every room like we are Queen Sheba!! That how I look at life everyday because mentally I can feel so drain and in the dumps and I refuse to feel like this all the time!  I want everyday to feel like Christmas…but that’s not possible.  Shopping helps me to overcome those days.

I will tried to do a monthly or Bi-monthly post about my deals that I find.  Until the next time beautiful people!! Be blessed… Oh yea… Trust and believe that nobody has paid me to do this posts.   I just love shoes  and clothes!!

Love, peace and happiness!

Tracy

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My July 4th creations and hosting at my home

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Good morning beautiful people! 

I love hosting at my house for holidays and dinners.  I love family coming together enjoying themselves while trying new dishes I have made and they are my little guinea pigs.  What I detest is parents who don’t control their kids and let them run amuck all over my dang house.  Since I started hosting I have had three windows to get broken and nobody knows how it happened.  I end of chasing dang flies and whatever else got in the house for days.  Its like the dang parents forget they are parents and they let their kids do as they please because it’s not their house.  So yesterday… When this started happening I went off and scared the bejesus out of the kids.  Everytime they saw me coming they would run to their parent or grandparent.  Heck  I didn’t care.  If your little minions are under the age of 5 you need to keep those little bad boogies beside your butt.  I mean really I have two sets of stairs and the little rascals barely can walk and their mothers is not playing attention and the first place they head is the stairs. For whatever reason the stairs always attracts them first.  However not in my house …..or you can stay your butt home.  I am so dang tired because I chased those little suckers all night.  Next time I will make rules  about keeping  your kids with you.  I wished I had a stepper on..I know I walked over 10000  steps.  

Rant over….Now as you can see from the videos and pictures I made three desserts.  Strawberry shortcake with cheesecake in the middle, Oreo cake with cheesecake in the middle, Red velvet Earthquake cake.  The best thing is I didn’t eat one piece.  I ate a pecan off the bottom of the red velvet Earthquake cake and that was it.  Shoot I only ate one hamburger patty and one half of a hotdog wenier.  I was to busy chasing  kids and fixing food.  Heck I know I didn’t get my protein in because I forgot to eat.  Lol. I will fixed that today.

Love, peace and happiness beautiful people!

Tracy

Magic wand that makes your fat melt away

 

Good afternoon beautiful people!  I have been thinking about this writing this post for a few days and I finally got around to doing it.

I  got to start this blog off by saying this ……Weight loss surgery is not a cure all!  Let me say this one more time for those who are considering having this surgery.  There is no such things as waving a magic wand and all your fat just melt away for eternity. Weight loss surgery is not a cure all!

Now I know you are looking at this post and wondering why I am saying this and I am going to tell you why.  I have had several people who had this surgery and afterwards tell me…. they hate they did it.  They go on complaining about how their stomach hurts when they start trying to eat food that they were told not to eat.  Why is my stomach still big and why can’t I look like you?  Why is the scale not moving?  One friend even told me she hates protein shakes…and can’t stand to drink any.  But then she went on to tell me that her legs gave out on.  Here the thang….yes I said thang….. if you can’t do proteins shakes you better find something else to get those proteins in!  Shoot they have all kinds of other liquids with protein added.  You need that protein for those muscle… As for my friend……You know what I got to say about all of this…. WELCOME TO THE FREAKING CLUB you thought it was going to be easy.  WRONG.

This surgery is a life changing surgery that helps you reach your desired weight goal if you do what your doctor and nutritionist teaches you to do.  Yea, yea, you will lose weight…but I bet you a dollar after the weight has plateau around your 3rd year…that fat will return.  Here is thing …..food is everywhere and you are constantly seeing it and it always knocking at your door saying …”Tracy come and take a bite of this rich thick piece of chocolate brownie…it won’t hurt.”  (blank stare)  Yes, it will because you will go back numerous times just to bite that bad boy!  After surgery, you got to change your daily eating habits for weight loss to happen. Sometimes you even have to separate from friends or family members who tempts you to overeat.  Shoot I found myself on numerous occasions overeating just because I knew my son was watching my plate so he could eat my leftovers.  Oh man, lunch at work was really bad.  When I go out to eat…I can only take a few bites so I am always getting a takeout box to take my remains back to my office and guess what I do.  I nibble on that left over food all day.  Heck I don’t be hungry…I just eat it because it is there.  How I stopped this bad habit, required that I start bringing my lunch to the office. That way I controlled my eating better. If I do go to lunch I put my plate in fridge at the office and don’t get it out until I go home and I make sure it is a healthy meal.

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Please understand I am not being a know it all.  I am just tired of the bull crap about how I took the easy route. Shoot all I did was take a short cut that lead me right back to the main highway and I still got to do what everybody else has to do.  Watch what I eat and exercise to keep the weight off.   If anything this journey is harder because when you over eat it causes pain and everything you have to go through to have the surgery.  Please let’s not forget all of the medicine that you are required to take for the rest of you life.  This is not the easily road…this is the hardest road with so many curve balls it is ridiculous.

Love, Peace and Happiness

Tracy

 

 

I hate my weight loss scale!

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Good afternoon beautiful people!

I woke up this morning and started getting my son and I ready to attend church for our Pastor’s Anniversary.  We had another pastor speaking for the Anniversary and his church was accompanying.  So that meant we wouldn’t get out regular seats if we didn’t leave early.  With that being said….I don’t care how much I got to do and if I am in a hurry.  I will always make that stop at the weight scale.  Well this morning the scale was at a stand still as it has been for the last two days.  My first thought after stepping on the little sucker three times and the numbers didn’t change was to throw that bad boy out the window.  Don’t that just piss you off.  I know I am not the only person who wants to pick their scale up and threw it up against the wall because we want to see those numbers go down so bad. However, here is the thing I am doing good because I have lost 6 pounds since I corrected my negative behaviors in one week. I also added some good habits that should keep the scale from going up.  I have looked at my body and examine my thighs and arms trying to figure out which area lost the pounds (that where I want to lose weight).  Knowing my stupid body…I probable lost the weight on my dang feet again.  I went from a size twelve extra wide in shoes to a size nine wide in shoes.   That another post for another day.  Nevertheless I can’t tell where the pounds came off….. but I am really happy with the 6 pounds I lost.

I know I lost six pound but I want to examine what a five pound loss look like. The picture below shows a great example of a 5 pound weight loss versus the weight of a brick.  Then the other pictures are showing 5, 10, 15, 20 pounds weight loss.  I have a friend that recently loss twenty pounds and is really tone and looks real good. You can’t tell them anything they are so happy with their results.  Muscles was popping and they was firm and tight all over.  I was so jealous but trust and believe I understand how they feel. I would really be happy with a twenty pound weight loss.

 

Nevertheless don’t ever get upset with just one pound lost because that an awesome start. The whole point is not to give up and not think you are doing good. Because even if it is one pound you are still making progress and one pound is better than plus one!

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Love, Peace and Happiness!!

Tracy

In for the fight of my life!

Good afternoon everybody! I have to discuss my three year anniversary coming up for my RNY Gastric Bypass  on July 28 and how I am not losing weight.  I have notice that I am  floating between gaining 5 pounds and then losing it.  Even thought my goal weight is only 20 pounds away.  The thought of even hitting 220 makes me cringe and sink down into a depressed mode.  I refused to go back to the old fat lady that couldn’t even walk around Wal-Mart to get grocery without tiring out quickly.

I also blame myself for my kids being overweight.  My son wants to lose about 70 pounds and I feel like my bad eating habits are something that I passed on to him. Not to mention my fatty genes.  Some people argue that there is no such thing as fatty genes but I be to differ on that. Now I know good eating habits could be taught and learned but when you know only how to throw fatback grease in everything you cook. Not county deep frying everything in grease. Eating starchy and bread all day. I found this one research that states that men can passed fatty genes on to their offspring but he could be alter by losing weight also.  However they were not able to prove that fatty genes were heredity.  I will included the link at bottom of the page.

Learning and maintaining  good eating habits are must on any weight loss journey.  I don’t care if you have had the Gastric Bypass or not.  You will never be able to eat any and everything and not worry about health issues such as weight gain or medical issues.  There has not been a way to safe and healthy way to lose weight and keep it off.  Besides eating healthy and exercising on a constant basic.

I am at that point in my journey where unfortunately you can start regaining weight.  THIS is the most crucial time in my life.  I am focusing on maintaining and keeping the weight off for the rest of my life.  Keep me in your thoughts and prayers as I continue to fight this struggle.  Oh how I wish I was one of those that just kept losing weight.  NOT Tracy!!

Love, Peace and Happiness and healthy choices.

Tracy

The picture below are within the last couple of weeks on the outside. The one in the middle was about 7 years ago when I was around 340 pounds.  img_0578

Are you fat because of your dad? Men’s WEIGHT directly affects genes in sperm linked to appetite and brain development. Mail Online, December 3 2015

Maintaining weight loss after weight surgery.

Good morning Beautiful people! Today is a new day and God see fit to wake me up one more time.   I am really excited for whatever reason about blogging and I don’t know why.

Now I did say this time around for my blogging I was going to branch out do things a little different but I am going to still focus on my weight loss journey because it is ongoing.

One thing about me that is very important to me is cooking.  I love being around the stove creating new low-fat and sugar-free recipes.  On any given day you will find be in Pinterest looking at recipes and I am going through my head on how to reduce the fat and calories intake.  You want food to still taste good and fulfilling because this help you stay in track with your weight loss also.

Shopping has become an obsession.  However, I am a very cheap shopper.   I will be posting some of my deals with pictures.

I am also rejoining the YMCA.  The doctor has said I can restart exercising and I want to try jogging eventually.   Maybe enter a marathon or two.  I can’t wait to join because I have this big handsome 17 son who will be attending with me.  He wants to drop weight and maybe play football his last year in high school next year.  He weighs around 340.  He is my partner in the kitchen and we are going to do this together.  I love both of my awesome children.


God bless!  Love, peace and happiness!

Accepting the new me..142 pounds weight loss

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Hello beautiful people! I want to talk about something that I had to deal with during this weight loss.  One of my major issues in my life has been my self esteem.

Now what I am about to say is my own personal experiences and opinions. In our culture the light skin versus the dark skin……or the good hair versus the nappy hair was really prevalence.  Now you have to remember I was teenager during the 80’s when the movie by “School Daze”, by Spike Lee came out. I was really able to relate to this movie, because I always felt like the dark skinned girl with the short coarse hair.  I can remember being called fat, ugly and bald by other kids even some family members at times.  A family member can break your self esteem worse than anything.  Because this is someone you love. Because of my insecurity I believe that without a shadow of doubt this affected me for years and my self esteem suffered severely.   It seemed that self esteem has always been a major problem with me.  I have discussed this in previous  posts.  However I never explained how it really affected me.  Now fast forward to 20 years later and weighing in at 340 pounds.  Can you see how my self esteem had gotten worse? It took for me to start losing weight to finally see that God don’t make mistakes and that I am beautiful inside and out.  There are still times that I will still look in the mirror and see Cecily from The Color Purple. However it is has greatly improved with time. Especially with all the good attention my weight loss attracts now.

One thing I found surprising was men have self esteem issues also.  I have a friend who is a guy and he discussed self esteem issues because he was the darkest one in his family and did not have lighter eyes or skin like his siblings. He really was hurt by this.  Which seen surprising because you don’t usually see this in men. But self esteem issues do not discriminate.

I realize that weight loss does increases one’s self esteem and make someone feel like a new person.  We have to realize that we were beautiful when we were overweight we just never accepted it.  Society has made us think that darker and heavier individuals feel like we not pretty and are ugly.  But we have to remember that God don’t make any mistakes whether we are big, small, dark, skinny, tall, light, white, bright.  Whatever you feel like is your shortcoming. Just know that you are beautiful however you look and God don’t make any mistakes.